Who Am I trying to Impress Anyways

 Countless Christian women spend extra time on Sunday morning making sure that they look their “Sunday Best.” While there is no fault in putting on beautiful but modest clothes and making sure your hair and make-up are done for church, your “Sunday Best” can easily mutate into your “Monday Worst.” At home, we strut around in our pajamas and unkempt hair until noon or later; who are we trying to impress anyway?

“Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father.” Colossians 3:17  

The effort we put into outward appearance reveals our attitudes toward our duties. If you spend hours doing your hair and make-up on Sunday morning but can’t be bothered when you’re at home with your family, you may need to adjust your attitude toward the duties to which God has called you. The way you present yourself in the home matters. Do not let the unbelieving feminists of this world be the only ones looking sharp wherever they are. Give reverence to your duties by taking care of your appearance in the home.  

“Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body.” 1 Corinthians 6:19-20

Every woman is different. Some women are blessed with seemingly perfect figures and gorgeous hair. Others are unhappy with their looks after having multiple children. It is easy to covet what another woman has and use it as an excuse not to care about our own appearance. “I’ll never be as skinny or as pretty as so-and-so, so why even bother?” This is a sign of discontentment and rejection of God’s sovereignty. Instead of giving up and giving in to pajama days, be thankful for the body God has blessed you with. Recognize that you are inherently feminine, and femininity can be a powerful tool when wielded properly.  

Remember that the goal is not to look more beautiful than other women but to please your husband. That’s part of your obedience to God. If you have been married for any significant amount of time, you probably know what your husband likes. If you’re newly married or have a particularly quiet husband, ask his opinion. What kinds of clothes does he think look good on you? Does he like make-up? How does he like your hair, including the length? Even if you have been married a long time, consider also asking him on a regular basis if he thinks you look okay for whatever your task is that day, whether you’re going to church or running errands or hanging out at home. 

You don’t have to wear ironed dresses, a full face of make-up, and carefully done hair everyday in order to look well-kept. Simply dressing in well-fitting clothes that complement your beauty will go a long way. Spending just five minutes doing your make-up (if you wear any) and hair will  transform your definition of “mom uniform.” Hair seems to have a mind of its own some days, and taming it can be a chore. Figure out a quick solution that works for you. Some hair and skin types require more attention than others, but invest a bit of time in researching what works for you. Having beautiful, feminine hair does not have to be expensive or time-consuming. Braid your hair before you go to bed at night and have wavy locks in the morning. If your hair is especially fine you might need some spray to keep those waves in place. Invest in some claw clips and cotton headbands for a quick hair routine. And whatever you’re doing with your clothes, make-up, and hair, don’t forget to make good hygiene a part of your routine. When you’re at home with little kids all the time it’s easy to forget the last time you took a shower or to be tired and lack the motivation to freshen up, but good hygiene is part of your overall health and part of loving your neighbor.

It’s important to take care of our appearance in the home because of the example we are setting for the younger generation. If we only dress up when we leave the house, we are showing them that it’s important to impress other people. If we give reverence to our appearance in and out of the home, we are showing them that we have respect for the duties God has called us to, no matter where we are. 

When you are out and about with all your children, like it or not, people are taking notice of you. While we should live for the Lord and not for man, you can still use these opportunities to show the world what a blessing it is to be a mother. Show people how thankful you are not only by having a pleasant demeanor and patience with your children but also by amplifying your feminine beauty. Feminine beauty is powerful.

Do not bury your treasure only to dig it up on Sundays and date nights. Multiply your treasure by making an effort every day of the week. Christian woman, wield your femininity to the glory of God. You are not obligated to look nice for your boss or to compete with other women in your realm, you are simply thankful that God made you a woman. Leave your “messy hair don’t care” at the door and show the world that you embrace your God-given occupation.

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